Unpredictability knocked on the door. And now life is broken into small pieces, feelings are trampled, loved ones turned out to be traitors. You can suffer until the end of your life, or you can try to start living from scratch.
Where to begin? Especially for you, a list of 10 unusual actions has been compiled that will help you recover from difficult events in your life.
Stay at home for one day. If you need, then for a whole week. Immerse yourself in your grief, cry enough, throw out emotions. In order to get rid of grief, you need to bathe in it well. Take pity on yourself, think about your future, analyze the present and the past.
Buy a large notepad and start writing. Start with stupid phrases, incomprehensible and awkward sentences. Write about your grief on paper. Make sketches. Make a collage out of magazine clippings. Turn on your favorite music and write non-stop.
Brew your favorite tea, buy a chocolate bar, wrap yourself in your favorite blanket, turn on a good movie. Try to switch your attention and forget for these hour and a half. Books act better than films. They heal souls. This is the cure for the ages!
Start singing fun songs in the shower or bath. You will definitely enjoy "performing" underwater.
Start thanking this world for a cloudless sky above your head, for new people in your life, for a smile during a pleasant memory. While no one hears you, thank the universe for everything. A bad experience is also an experience. Without the black stripe, we would not know the beauty of the white stripe in our lives.
Write letters to people you have hurt a lot. Ask them for forgiveness. Start living in a new way, from a clean, spotless slate. You will certainly be forgiven if you are sincere.
Did you manage to put things in order in your head? Switch to house cleaning. Throw out excess trash, buy something new for the house. Change curtains, pillowcases for sofa cushions. Start small.
Switch all your energy to sports. Do yoga, Pilates, sign up for a sports club, a pool. If constant sports are not your thing, then go skydiving, go diving while relaxing at sea, sign up for foreign language courses.
Create your wishlist. Take an A3 sheet, write your name in the center, and start dreaming. Think about what you want in every area of your life: relationships, health, leisure, work, family. Let your imagination turn into a beautiful wish card that will guide you towards your dreams.
Try to pretend that you are happy alone. Start smiling, try to laugh heartily. This technique resembles a one-man theater and helps to get rid of complexes.
In a situation where it seems that the ground is slipping from under your feet, the main thing is to act. Nobody is forcing you to step over yourself. Change a little. Change your life, draw it from scratch.
Every Monday, month or year, we hope many strive to start life with a clean slate. There is a hope in my soul that now I will definitely live in a new way, but expectations are not always justified.
If change does not come by itself, a revolution is needed - in the way of thinking and behavior. Ask yourself some questions that will help you figure out how to change tomorrow.
It is necessary to strive for something, otherwise the guidelines for growth are lost. Longing, anxiety appear, it becomes unclear why to do certain things, who needs all this.
Sometimes rationalism does a disservice. A person wants an expensive car, but strives for at least some, in the end he remains empty-handed. And if he had dreamed of a specific brand, the situation could have developed in such a way that a good job and money would have appeared to buy that same car.
What to do? Listen to yourself and understand what you need. The desire must be bold, invigorate, then it comes from the heart. Imagine that everything has come true and the long-awaited moment has come. And now - what will you lose if you do not achieve your goal. This will give you an incentive to act. New tasks will give strength, make you do what is necessary easily and with pleasure.
The main condition is a clear wording. Many dreams are illogical, like a kaleidoscope of bright pictures that cannot be structured. If you want an apartment, you need to draw everything in detail - from the area and number of storeys of the house to interior items. Details bring implementation closer. And there is no magic in this, you just build a ladder between yourself and the goal, where each step is a plan of action.
The anticipation of victory has a good effect on well-being
A lot depends on your environment. It happens that friends or relatives on an unconscious level pull you down: they laugh at your great plans, doubt your abilities. Following them, you lose faith in yourself and stop acting.
What to do? Every time you give up, cheer up, otherwise you will simply wither away.
Try to surround yourself with successful people who inspire and energize you. Gradually adopting their habits, turns of speech, demeanor, you will also achieve heights in a certain area.
Dreaming of financial stability - take a closer look at those who earn serious money. You should share your hopes and plans only with such people, they know for sure that everything you are striving for can really be obtained. If you want a harmonious family, communicate with married ladies who are happy in marriage. If you are planning a child, make friends with those who already have healthy and strong children.
Start life from scratch, but leave a copy of old mistakes
The taste for life and energy gives only what brings pleasure. Therefore, do not forget to give yourself - beloved (oh), beautiful (oh), wonderful (oh) and unique (oh) - as much time as possible, pamper yourself.
What to do? Find a hobby. Not lucky to have Good work- Find a hobby that brings you joy. But it is necessary to maintain a balance and develop in other directions too. Otherwise, you can become, for example, financially successful, but with problems in the family and a lot of sores.
Give an equal amount of energy to the main areas of life: health, relationships, money and personal growth. Do not miss the opportunity to learn something, it opens up new horizons. Then everything will be easy, and the rest will decide that you are the minion of fate.
He who has experienced the pleasure of creativity, for him all other pleasures do not exist.
Don't be afraid to change. Only their release, no matter how trite it may sound, is the engine of self-development. Starting life from scratch is always scary, but if you are not satisfied with the present, then what are you afraid of losing? :)
That's how you live and it seems that everything is in order. No matter how good, no matter how good. And then all of a sudden it hits ... all these unpleasant memories, terrible resentments, gnawing feelings of guilt. Looking back, you see that life is a chain of bad and very bad events. I want to cross it all out, as if turning the page and starting life from scratch. And it seems to even work out, though until the next roll of unpleasant memories. Is life all about suffering?
The desire to start all over again from scratch does not arise in every person. And this is not due to how many mistakes and misdeeds people make in their lives. No, this desire is directly related only to the human psyche, which for some of us is directed entirely and completely into the past.
Only 20% of the planet's inhabitants are more focused on the past with their thoughts and desires. It is there, in the past years, that they see the best in the life of mankind in general, and, unfortunately, their most offensive mistakes and misdeeds. But the future, on the contrary, seems completely unattractive to them. Therefore, they often say this: either " Eh, people used to be simpler, the trees were taller, the prices were lower. And now where are we heading? Everything just gets worse and worse." Either " How could I be so wrong? You didn't have to do that! Now I regret it all my life ... How to turn the page, how to start living from scratch?
We are talking about people who naturally have an anal vector (terminology of system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, read more about the system of vectors in the article "8 vectors".
It is the gnawing feeling that mistakes have been made in the past that engenders in the mind of the anal person the idea of taking all this and forgetting it all at once. After all, in fact, the question is “how to start life from scratch?” - this is not a question, but simply a desire to cross out past oversights.
Subconsciously, we understand that it is impossible to “start from scratch”, because it contradicts the nature of the anal vector. Aspiring to the past, possessing an excellent memory, he cannot turn around at one moment, neglect everything that was and go forward without looking back. That doesn't happen. And even if it happened by some miracle, it would bring incredible suffering, much more than a person feels from the remorse of what he did in the past.
Of course, you always want to get rid of what hurts. But in the case of the anal vector, the mistakes of the past are only a seeming reason for heartache. The real reason is that the past does not provide analytical experience, looping a person on the same mistakes. It is because of this that there is a feeling of some kind of constant, incessant dance on the same rake, and the future life is seen exclusively in pessimistic colors. Yes, occasionally there is a glimpse of the thought “to start living from scratch”, but this does not change anything. Everything stays the same year after year.
The only way to stop suffering from your own past is to become aware of it, analyze it, draw correct conclusions from it., that is turn the past into useful experience. Most often, this does not work for us due to the elementary reason for not understanding ourselves and our desires, and to the same extent - the desires and characteristics of other people, conflicts with which cause the most pain.
Only an accurate, reliable, verified analysis of why something is happening in our lives gives relief. This is how experience is created, and at the very moment when we apply it to life, it gives tremendous relief and fulfillment. Even more - when we share experience with other people, transfer to the future.
By correctly applying the past as a good experience (and there is simply no bad experience, by definition), we get a colossal fulfillment of our desires. And then the thought will never even enter your head - how to turn the page and start life from scratch, all over again.
Not a single person in the world can mark his past, forget it, cross it out and just start life from scratch. This happens only with brain damage and amnesia, but such a scenario of life causes nothing but sympathy.
You should not be afraid of your past or deny it. On the contrary, you need to make a 180-degree turn and boldly look into your past. Take it apart piece by piece, remember all the grievances and feelings of guilt, all the troubles and punctures, but not from scratch, but with the help of Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology. This knowledge has already provided a foothold for thousands of people around the world. Read and watch their reviews at this link.
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Often people begin to think about how to start life from scratch. There is a desire to change something for the better, to start building relationships with people, a career, life in a completely different way. For this, someone needs to change their place of work, move to another city, some stop communicating with individual acquaintances, and someone gets divorced. Sometimes, to start a new life, it is enough to make a number of changes, get rid of bad habits to transform the worldview. The main thing is to know what exactly to strive for. Define your goals, boldly get down to business. You can start life anew right now, without delay.
Setting new prioritiesWe develop a concrete plan and implement ideas
Try to come up with concrete solutions right away. Find out exactly what steps you will take to start life with a clean slate. For example, someone who wants to give up the habit of smoking needs to solve very specific tasks: choose the right exercises, form a diet, consult a doctor, and, if necessary, get a consultation with a psychologist. The same plan will be needed in any other case. Take action!
AT New Year I want to enter, not only freed from work debts or unfinished business, but also starting life as if from a clean slate. At the same time, in order to “reboot” yourself, it is not at all necessary to quit your job or radically change your image. All you have to do is listen to our advice.
Before you start life from scratch, you need to understand that the "past" life does not suit you. This is what will be the main impetus for change - the irrepressible desire for these changes. It may arise due to the fact that you feel uncomfortable in the environment in which you live. You can name more local reasons that make a person feel the need to change his life. It can be an unloved job that only pumps out a resource without replenishing it in return with the joy of goals achieved, plans fulfilled, or the process itself. Relationships in which you no longer feel loved, which it’s time to break off, but you can’t decide because of certain fears, can also be the reason for the desire to change your own life. Together with the psychologists of the Secrets family and sexual education center, we made sure that your transition to a new life was done correctly.
Step One - Desire
We have already said that the path to change is based on the desire to change. In order to start life from scratch, you need to understand that this desire is stronger than all the fears that can go hand in hand with life changes. For example, dismissal from an unloved job may be accompanied by a long search and a temporary (perhaps quite long) absence of a new job; the termination of a relationship in which you have been a member for several years may be associated with a fear of loneliness; moving from one city to another may be associated with financial problems. There is always something we are afraid of. And this fear very often acts as a limitation for our desire, preventing us from taking the most difficult step on the path to change - the first step.
Step Two - Ask yourself what will get you started on the path to change.
- Complete all unfinished business. You can not start a new life, leaving the old things unresolved. Finish the book that you haven’t finished reading for a long time, fulfill all the promises you made - in general, do everything that is unfinished that is in your “past” life.
- Do the cleaning. This is the most banal, but very valuable advice, which implies that you have to put things in order not only at home, but also in your own head. Get rid of all old and unnecessary things (clothes can be handed over to second-hand, furniture can be returned to the store and get a discount on buying a new one). All the things that make you negative emotions, memories or that you do not want to see anymore, you will need to remove from the apartment. And do not put it somewhere on the balcony or on the mezzanine - this will only create the appearance of change.
- Leave the past in the past. Whether it's an ex-partner who regularly calls you, or a colleague from work who stuffs herself into a girlfriend and whispers behind your back. All the people that you would not want to see next to you in a new life should be left in the past: stop answering calls, go into open ignoring mode, stop thinking about these people.
- Define a clear goal that you want to achieve in the course of change. Highlight the most important thing that you want to get from these changes. It may be a new job, a new relationship, it may be a reference to certain values - love, a sense of happiness, restoration of physical or psychological health.
- Visualize the dream. You must not only understand what you are going to, but also see it, imagine it in the brightest colors. This is one of the techniques of neurolinguistic programming - to tune in to a deliberately positive result and move towards the goal with complete self-confidence.
New Year's Eve and New Year's holidays are a great time for a change. Psychologically, we perceive the onset of the next year as a worthy occasion for setting global goals, completing old cases and emotional “zeroing”. In order to really change your life, do not put off the first steps, start acting immediately, do not be lazy and believe in yourself.
Summarizing. Very often a person has a desire to take stock of the "past" life before starting a new one. This is a good technique that will help not only find unnecessary reasons for change, but also set new goals and plans.
Wish collage. This technique helps in the process of visualizing a dream or goal. First, make a list of wishes that you want to fulfill. Then, armed with whatman paper, paste on it pictures, clippings or articles from magazines that you associate with a specific desire. The collage must be hung in a conspicuous place so that it is constantly in front of your eyes. This will help you remember what you want to strive for.
And finally: in any business, attitude is very important. Approach change with determination, courage and confidence. You should feel the joy of change and the sense of fulfillment that comes with completing tasks and achieving goals.
