Is there an "Ideal formula for female behavior with a man" and if so, what is it?
Many people ask this question, but everything is really not difficult, and although in love affairs everyone is individual, one can safely identify five conditions, following which, a woman will forever hold a man’s heart. Having been dealing with the topic of close relationships for fifteen years and being well versed in this, I am Andrey Ryder, I assure you that almost any man expects from his beloved:
If a man receives all this from his chosen one, then he erects her on a pedestal of Love, appreciates and does not think about betrayal. In fact, this is the ABC of relationships. These are the conditions for their stability, and the conditions for maintaining male Love.
And since each of these conditions is important in its own way, we will consider them separately.
Respect and recognition are important for a man, thereby he asserts himself and, first of all, expects this from his beloved woman - the person who is closest to him, whom he trusts and on whom he can rely on in life.
To justify such hopes of a loved one, a woman needs:
If a woman supports a man in everything, empathizes with him, is interested in his affairs, if she is emotionally close to him and shows sensitivity, he values her. Feeling in her eyes the most important, the best, the most necessary, he sees in her a kindred spirit, and even a muse. These women rarely leave.
This condition has material and psychological components. In terms of the material component, everything is quite clear. This means being a caring wife and a good, diligent housewife, diligently equipping the family hearth. No matter how protocol it may sound, but without it in any way.
The psychological component of comfort refers to the psychological atmosphere in the house and the absence of conflict in relationships. Nothing destroys them as quickly as protracted conflicts. And here the reconciling party should be primarily a woman, she needs to show great flexibility. Compromising and playing along with a man, a wise woman skillfully smooths out conflicts. Rather, she builds a love nest, and it is she who determines the feeling of home warmth experienced by a man.
Love is a game, the most exciting and interesting game in life. So that relationships do not become insipid and habitually boring, you need to maintain a sense of intrigue in them, and the woman plays a key role here. It is important for her to remain herself, to be a playful cat, and not to become, in the perception of a man, a habitual housewife and a solid mother of his children. If she does not tease a man, does not flirt and does not seduce, if she completely depends on him, is predictable and completely understandable, he can be pulled to the side - for the game, hunting and intrigue.
The fashion for “naturalness” does a disservice to sexuality, and many women neglect self-care over the years, believing that they should be loved for who they are. They relax, but in vain, no one owes them anything, not those times now.
Of course, behind all this there is work, time and money. But there are no other options. If a woman does not make it a habit to work on her grooming, if she allows herself to relax in this regard, she should not be surprised at the role of a house slipper, which is forgiven for being wrinkled, worn, and shapeless, but also treated accordingly. Yes, it is more difficult for a woman in this respect than for a man, and she has to work harder on appearance. But such are the laws of nature. A man loves with his eyes, and there's nothing you can do about it. Illusions in this respect are dangerous.
Whether women like it or not, without sex, there is no full-fledged love for men. The rule "NO SEX - NO LOVE" is 100 percent valid here. Those. good sex with a woman you love is the highest manifestation of love for a man, it is sex that strengthens her in the first place. At the same time, the sensuality of relations is not crossed out, it is important for a man, but sex is the foundation of his love.
Understanding and accepting this, a woman can ideally build a relationship with a man using her sexuality. And on the other hand, if a man does not have enough sex, the relationship will not be stable. No matter how cynical this may sound, but the way to a man's heart lies through the eggs, and this is true.
And although such an ending may seem rude to you, believe me, it is realistic. “What does a man need from a woman” - after all, we asked ourselves such a question? I tried to answer it for you.
At the same time, we ended up with sex for good reason, because:
I have developed a special manual for women. Being a supporter of the stability of relations, he tried to clearly and specifically describe in it what a woman should do, not letting love cool down.
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Knowing how to cook is, of course, commendable, but not yet a chapel of perfection. We will tell you what your beloved man really needs in a relationship.
Recommendations on women's forums are confusing. For any problem with a beloved man, they have a thousand recommendations that are diametrically opposed to each other, and each time - universal. The radical nature of such advice makes women feel at a loss - either accept a man with all the shortcomings, or immediately quit. It's good that there is a little guide who is ready to help. The main thing is to understand what a man needs in a relationship. If you are ready to provide it to him, then he will be ready to provide your female happiness. Here is an equation of pure and boundless love, where mutual respect is multiplied in two.
The first forty years in a boy's life are the hardest. And all because he already was a little boy, a fluffy bunny, a defenseless flower and will forever remain for his mother. With you, a man wants to feel strong, mature, irreplaceable and independent. Yes, a man simply needs to be a hero for his woman, even turning a blind eye to all complaints, insults, a temperature of 36.8. Representatives of the strong half of humanity need to feel that you admire them and tremble at every glance. Because if you do not admire him, then, excuse me, why did you surrender to him? So, ladies, keep in mind that men need complements just like you do. Without a sense of mutual admiration, everything fades, and love is the very first on this list. Just choose appropriate epithets that sound convincing. Let's say an iron fist, a stone wall, a warrior, the most courageous, the strongest. But leave all these “my prince”, “my angel” and “handsome” to moms.
Everything is simple here: any boat of love is rocked by all sorts of quarrels. Any relationship is covered with a carpet of scattered socks, covered with forgotten bouquets of flowers, mountains of unwashed dishes, spent money and other nonsense. Naturally, you have already managed to get offended and talk about the sore in the high volume mode. That's in vain. No matter how ridiculous it may sound, men do not understand what exactly women are offended by. A conflict of the sexes, you can’t call it otherwise, in which female tears can develop a male inferiority complex. Why break a man's self-esteem with empty insults? Your loved one ignores the little things, not because he wants to turn your life into hell, but because he is a man who is responsible for something large-scale and his gaze simply does not fall to everyday problems. Do not try to re-educate what is laid down by nature. There are fine lines between the need to discuss a problem, the need to blow off steam, and bullying. They don't need to be crossed. The success of your love depends not on what you do, but on what you don't do. Sometimes you just need to ignore minor flaws.
Men think like this: if you are a woman, then you want to get married, and if you do not want to marry him, then you have someone else. Killer logic, we agree, but most men really think so. And so in everything. He has his own view of everything, which passes through this filter of illogicality. Therefore, in order for understanding to appear in a relationship, you need to clearly and specifically talk about your desires, dreams, describing your thoughts in detail. At first it will be difficult, but then you will get the taste. You will learn to talk about the main thing without hiding your feelings, and the man will stop thinking. You must let him into your life, gradually introducing your oddities, so that in the end he becomes an integral part of your life.
This point succinctly follows from the previous one: do not try to take all the personal space of a man with yourself and only yourself. He also needs to breathe freely. Surprisingly, the more freedom you give a man, the less he needs it. Living one life for two, and yours, is an idea for a love story, and not for harsh reality. Most often, such couples dig a common grave for themselves, parting with the scandal. There is nothing critical in just being alone with yourself.
Furthermore personal life you need too. Otherwise, how to develop, how to grow, how to remain desired and loved if your relationship is stomping on one leg? You can't be afraid to live your life. The paradox of love is that two become one while remaining two.
The other side of "I'm your stone wall" because even heroes need help sometimes. This does not mean that you need to free a man from responsibility, solve all his problems, start patronizing, destroying everyone around, simple female tenderness is enough. Hug your loved one, be sure it works. A man wants to hear from a woman: "Darling, I see how you try, I'm with you." Understand that everything a man does, everything he achieves, everything he strives for, he does for you, and maybe a little for himself. You are his motivator, you are his incentive and you are his support.
A woman's loyalty to a man speaks of a woman's love. If she loves, she does not imagine herself with someone else, because she does not need it. And if a woman can forgive betrayal, then a man never can. The male part of the population, no matter what they tell you, is by nature owners. Therefore, it is worse than sharing with someone of your own, for them there is nothing. Dear ladies, be faithful to your companions, and get reciprocity.
This parable is as old as the world. You can be a legendary cook, have a luxurious appearance, but if there is no sex in your relationship, then you don’t have a relationship either. In addition, one more sad fact: if a man does not receive this from you, there will definitely be one who will give him everything he needs and the choice is obvious here.
Dear women, no one asks you for constant self-sacrifice, but understanding the feelings, desires and worldview of a beloved man is not so difficult, and almost always useful. And if from time to time you put his desires and needs a little higher than your own, then there will be no price for such a woman. Love your men and be happy. Successfully in, and don't forget to press the buttons and
In most cases, guys do not know what a woman needs from a man and how to act so that her beloved is satisfied. To solve this problem, familiarize yourself with the main components of female happiness. After studying them, learn to act correctly, then your beloved girl will always be comfortable and joyful.
Regardless of age and social status, women dream of being happy. But not always positive emotions can be experienced on your own. If a girl is in a relationship, her happiness also depends on the man.
To achieve inner harmony with themselves, women go in for sports, go to the cinema, buy cosmetics and put on expensive makeup, learn languages and travel. But in order to feel the fullness of life, they need a loved one. For complete happiness, girls need a sense of spiritual harmony with their boyfriend.
The kinship of souls is the foundation of love, on the quality of which the future of the couple depends. Hiking in nature, cycling, playing chess and other joint activities are necessary attributes of spiritual closeness and harmony in a couple. In a relationship, women want a man to be a friend who will take an active part in the life of his beloved.
If there are no common hobbies in a couple, for harmony it is enough to respect the choice of the girl and be sincerely interested in her success.
Often, men speak negatively about ladies who are looking for wealthy young people. But they do not understand the essence: when a girl wants to build a serious relationship with a guy, she will always look to the future and evaluate his material wealth.
Women think first of all about children. But when they appear, the mother goes on maternity leave, and the man becomes the main breadwinner in the family. The fear of facing poverty and taking care of children alone is what pushes ladies to look for financially secure guys. To become happy, a woman needs to know how promising her chosen one is. If he gives gifts, spoils his beloved, then she can relax and see in him her support in life.
For complete happiness, a woman needs self-realization, because it is she who is considered the most powerful source of strength. Ladies who were able to find their own business and successfully develop it do not suffer from panic attacks, depression, overprotection or excessive jealousy.
Self-realization does not always imply the presence of monetary rewards. This is not a job, there is no career ladder and competition in it. These include the things to which the girl likes to devote her time:
A woman needs a guy to let her do what she loves, support her, provide assistance if necessary, and never force her to give up creativity. Otherwise, the girl will lose herself, and the relationship will begin to deteriorate.
The main purpose of a woman is motherhood. To feel happy and fulfilled in life, a girl needs to give birth to a baby. Modern foundations dictate certain stages in the formation of a family: first marriage, then only a “hike” to the hospital. For this reason, women strive first to find a life partner with whom they will experience the happiness of motherhood.
Men rarely seek to marry and take responsibility for the family, because giving love, attention and care is much more difficult than receiving. But women do not lose hope in creating a strong cell of society and hope that there will be more responsible and family-oriented guys.
For girls, feeling secure is a basic part of building love relationship with a man. According to research from the University of Connecticut, the fidelity hormone oxytocin is responsible for the formation of this feeling. In large quantities, it is produced after intimate relationships, so in bed ladies are gentle, open and calm.
But not always a woman is ready to let a man into her life through sex. In such cases, to create a sense of security in a girl, you can resort to psychological tricks. They include:
To win over a woman, a man must provide her with this feeling. It is the feeling of security that girls often lack from guys.
In family relationships with a man, ladies often experience fear for the future. It may be classified differently.
Each experience does not form in a vacuum. So that there are no such fears in a woman’s life, a man needs to be responsible for his family:
In a relationship, it is important for a woman to be heard, so a guy needs to be always ready to listen to his beloved.
When a woman gets enough romance from her lover, she wants to become better. Positive emotions fill with energy, which then the young ladies willingly transfer to the chosen ones.
Romance in a relationship involves a kind of exchange of energies. Beloved kills a mammoth, and the girl takes the prey and cooks delicious dinner to feed the guy. Approximately the same principle of exchange occurs with romantic manifestations of feelings.
When this is not the case, energy stagnates or does not form at all, and the couple encounters conflicts, misunderstandings, and eventually disperses. Women always expect romance from men in order to feel loved and desired.
According to sexologists, regular intimate communication is necessary for physical and emotional health. With absence love games in bed, a woman runs the risk of earning mental disorders and neuroses. Due to unfulfilled sexual desires, complexes are formed, depression and early old age come.
Women need quality sex with an orgasm. From men, they always expect a reverent and unselfish attitude in this matter.
The sign of the zodiac can lift the veil of the mystery of a person's needs and desires. Focusing on the horoscope, find out what the lady of the heart wants from a man.
| Sign | Needs |
| Aries | The girl of this sign prefers to solve all problems herself. Aries do not like to rely on someone at work, at the institute and family. The representative of the fire sign wants to see next to her young man who needs protection and guardianship, so even strong man should not be ashamed to show weakness. To strengthen self-esteem, Aries need admiration. If the guy refuses to praise his queen, then the girl will leave |
| Taurus | A practical Taurus girl wants to be in a relationship with a serious and reliable man who will be proud of her merits, thank her for her thriftiness and buy whatever she pleases. Taurus women prefer stability, so you should not delay going to the registry office with them |
| Twins | Geminis love socializing, having fun, and traveling. They dream of being irreplaceable in any society. Often, women of the air sign idealize men, which is why they often remain lonely. From young people, Gemini women want understanding and care. It is important for them that a loved one shares their hobbies. |
| Crayfish | Cancer Woman is a true keeper of the hearth. He loves the house, family dinners and prefers to obey his spouse. From a man, a girl expects full returns. A young man who will love the house, children, weekend picnics and his spouse will be able to win the heart of the Cancer lady forever. |
| a lion | Self-confident, determined and majestic, the Leo woman prefers to be a leader. But she will not tolerate a weak man next to her. A girl wants to live beautifully, so she expects strong energy, potential and a desire to do everything to make her beloved feel good from a man. |
| Virgo | Practical Virgo prefers a measured lifestyle. Adventures and passions are not for her. She needs a man who does not seek diversity. It is important for Virgo to feel secure and confident in the future. |
| Scales | The Libra woman in choosing a man is often guided by the opinions of others, therefore, in a relationship, she expects beautiful deeds from her chosen one. It is important for her that her lover appreciates, loves, admires her intellect, beauty and achievements. At the same time, Libra girls themselves are not ready to give the same in return. |
| Scorpion | The Scorpio woman is a lover of bright emotions, she hates quiet evenings, measured life and lack of variety. He chooses only passionate and extraordinary partners who do not succumb to difficulties and are ready for anything for the sake of their beloved. Expect protection, understanding and adventurous deeds from a man |
| Sagittarius | The Sagittarius woman is the soul of the company, a hurricane of passions and a perpetual motion machine rolled into one. In a relationship, he prefers a change of scenery and sensations. She can only be happy with a guy who can share her love of adventure and passion. Homebody men are not for her |
| Capricorn | A cold and arrogant Capricorn woman appreciates stability, devotion and financial well-being in relationships. Next to him he wants to see only a worthy guy who would treat with respect, carry in his arms and financially support |
| Aquarius | Original and unusual Aquarius girls love strange men with high intelligence. They feel great in the company of young people, so there is no place in the heart for jealous people. The representative of the sign wants to see a partner next to her who will love her with all the "cockroaches", unusual hobbies and strange friends |
| Fish | An impressionable and vulnerable woman will strive to where there is devotion, tenderness, love and warmth. She will sacrifice everything for true feelings. A fish is waiting for a man unconditional love and sacrifice |
Relationships are daily work that takes time and effort. It is impossible to only take in love, otherwise the feelings will fade away. To make it pleasant and easy with a girl, you need to understand her needs and satisfy them. Then the thought will not arise in the head about what women need from men.
What does a man need to be happy? Here is a topic that is interesting to think about.
Moreover, this topic can be analyzed from two sides. And for a man to understand what makes him happy. And for a woman to understand how to make her man happy.
As soon as I step into this topic, I immediately feel some kind of failure. This is a topic where there is no specifics, where everything is blurry and relies on sensations and feelings. How to measure it? How to calculate it? How can happiness be taught? I think it's possible.
I need a woman next to me. Wife, mistress, mother of my children.
I need children.
I need free time to devote to my hobbies.
I need to communicate outside the family, with my colleagues and like-minded people.
It is clear that you need to splash out your emotions somewhere. Yell, scream.
It is important to feel significant, necessary, useful. It is important to understand your place and know what specific benefits my work brings.
Actually, it's a difficult question. What does a man need to be happy?
I need going to the movies, trips. Although, here I am talking about these trips, but I myself understand that this is superficial. Travel is a pattern.
Sometimes I just want to wander aimlessly. By bookstores. Go to a restaurant and eat. Go to a massage parlour. That is, sometimes you just want to live in the moment, don’t run anywhere, don’t call anyone, don’t pull anyone.
I love to eat. Delicious to eat. I understand that happiness without physical pleasure cannot be considered either. A man needs to fuck, so much so that the woman under him groans and wriggles. Then he will feel like a male, a winner.
Of course, a good car. Big car on big wheels
status in society. It is important. Membership in a social group. This is super important. That is why sports are so popular and, in particular, team sports - football and hockey. There is an opportunity to be involved in the team.
What else does a man need to be happy? Sometimes you just want to be a child, play, forget yourself and go into some kind of children's world with full immersion, where there are adventures, where you need to overcome difficulties and win. That is why computer games are so popular.
Of course, I think from my belfry. For me, feeling is also important for happiness. It is important for me to feel joy, peace. I love to laugh.
Now I re-read everything I wrote and was surprised to find that I did not mention money at all. Either these are my limiting beliefs about money, or a man really doesn’t need money to be happy ...
Although, no. Cash in the wallet always adds mood and confidence. It's kind of sad without money. Yes, for complete happiness, you need to understand that the bills are paid, there is something to buy food and clothes, there is something to pamper your wife and children.
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What does a man need from a woman to be happy?- this question in different options I have already been asked several dozen times both in consultations and in personal communication. For example, there is 
a guy or a man who first met with one girl / woman, and eventually married another. And the question looked something like this. " But why is this happening? Why is there no logic and justice? What else does he need to be happy? Well, if only she would be much smarter, prettier, cook better, etc.
But this is not the case. I(questioning girl) much prettier. I'm definitely smarter, I cook better, I'm much better at keeping up a conversation, I make better money, etc. So why did my boyfriend leave me? What else do these guys need? I do not understand them. What does a man need from a woman so that he becomes happy with me and does not leave me?
There are not just many such questions, but a lot. More than half of the consultations are on this topic. They come to the mail to the administrator, they are asked in our group sunny hands Vkontakte, they are asked in the comments to my articles. Or order paid consultations. See
As far as possible, I answer them in articles and books. Of course, the main and simple answer is that men are not women. They may have completely different needs. And what is important to women may not matter to them at all.
However, this common words and in this article I systematized the basic needs (not declared, but real) of ordinary standard men, of which 80-90 percent. So, let's look at a few important aspects that a man really needs from a woman to make him happy with her.
Need number one. A man needs victory to be happy.
A man needs a victory, probably no less than a woman needs a family, children, stability.
Well, of course, not just a victory, but running around, fussing, overcoming difficulties, and then - victory. Winning in business sports achievements, in career growth, in financial matters (and everything connected with it), in the evaluation of other males, etc.
If a man himself is not able to organize his successes, then he can be content with the victories of the team (the place where he works, the team in sports or even his team on TV, Russia, after all).
Men who are over 40 and who already pretend that they do not want anything, they are only trying to engage in self-deception so that it is not bitter. I saw dozens of transformations when someone said that he had enough of everything and did not need anything else. Then, due to various life circumstances (there was nowhere to go), he won in some area of life and completely changed. Again he needs results, victory. (It is clear that this need did not go anywhere, but she was simply in a dormant state)
However, there are women and girls who, by their behavior, contribute to the victories of a man, and there are those who contribute to his defeats or the fact that he does not even try to achieve anything (which, in fact, is also a defeat)
In other words, those women who let the achievements of a man take their course and, all the more, resist them, do not satisfy one of the most basic needs of their man in order for him to become happy with her.
And if so, then you can no longer ask: “Why am I, smart and beautiful, and he went to an ugly fool”?
Yes, she may be ugly and not as smart as you think, but she does at least something for the success of her man, and not vice versa, blocks him.
I cannot write here in detail about how to contribute to the success of a man. This requires a separate article or even a book. It is clear that you need to be interested, praise real successes and even the most minimal efforts that your loved one makes to achieve success, put up with the fact that part of the family budget and time is spent on various incomprehensible things, etc. I recommend reading “Your husband’s success are you ready for it?” .
But again I will repeat. Success for a man is no less important than a family for a woman. If you are this 
understand, then you are already on the right track so that a man never even thinks of leaving somewhere in 50 years of your life together. You will understand what a man needs from a woman first of all in order to become happy with her.
So, ask a man what he wants to achieve in life? It is not so much about the material signs of success as about its causes. That is, where and in what does he want to win?
After his answer, ask what needs to be done for this? (Usually this is special training, business training, training in sales skills or the ability to manage people or something else)
How to make sure that every day he allocates at least 1-2 hours for the victory? (Usually this is training in something and work)
Secondly, in order to become happy with a woman, a man needs protection from severe defeats.
Severe defeats are what can lead a man to a state of lying on the couch for a couple of years, and maybe even lead to the fact that he will stop striving somewhere altogether. This is not a completely obvious point for guys who are 15-25 years old, but those who are older will understand me.
Therefore, the obvious task is to avoid such severe injuries. (Defeats, of course, from the point of view of a man, not a woman. From the point of view of a woman, this may be a worthless event) After severe defeats, a man may want to live one for several years, or simply cease to be interesting for a woman.
Light failures, on the contrary, make a man stronger, more adequate. (But it is clear that not a series of defeats over 10 years).
But the bottom line is that a man, especially in his youth, rarely understands what risks, unpredictability, the need for caution are and, accordingly, cannot do the obvious things in order to avoid the most severe risks.
However, a woman possesses such a quality and, in addition, she has the advantage that she sees from the outside.
There is an obvious conclusion here. If your man strives to "climb" somewhere and "run" for success, then look at possible risks. If the risk is negligible, then let him run, even if he can lose. Even if something does not work out 100%, but the risk is negligible, but there is an opportunity to gain experience (for example, entrepreneurial), then you can try.
If the risk is significant, then make the man abandon his undertaking.
For example, if a man seeks to fight with a company of drunks and "evil" alone, then it is better to do everything to prevent this from happening. (Except in extreme cases) Risk of fracture, disability, etc. pretty big. If he wants to sell the apartment, borrow more money and start his own business, then of course, it’s also better to dissuade him.
Conversely, if he wants to start a business with minimal funds or wants to learn something that can somehow advance his career, then support him. Even if it doesn't work out, nothing bad will happen.
I will not give many examples here, since you are women and so you feel the danger better than men. Just at the right moment or support your loved one
Probably, it seems to you that I am saying obvious and simple things that all women do anyway. However, I can assure you that this is not the case. Most girls either do not give any attention to the achievements of their loved ones (I mean systematic actions, of course, not slogans), or do not stop him when he is clearly looking for trouble.
The third need. banter, jokes.
Without it, he will never be completely happy. If you have ever seen a company of 3-4 men, you will almost certainly see constant humor, jokes, banter (sometimes harsh, in your opinion). With rare exceptions, humor and banter are one of the strongest needs of men. 
After all, our life, even full of achievements, is generally quite routine and boring. Those who can support laughter, practical jokes, are always valuable. For men, for some reason, humor (in their interpretation, however), for some reason means very, very much.
For example, you can watch several episodes of the Russian TV series "Interns", where several quite adult uncles are only engaged in joking, arguing with someone, cheating with pleasure, etc. And it is this nonsense, at first glance, activity that makes up the meaning of the life of the heroes. (Not work or study)
The value of humor for men (male humor, of course), according to my observations, is several times higher than for women.
The ability of a woman to hook a man (not too hard), repel his collision (this must be done all 
life, otherwise he will never respect you. How to gain the respect of a man, read the book “19 mistakes with men. How to make him respect and love you?), to understand and sincerely laugh at his jokes or strangers, but which are funny to him - this is the quality that is valued by men in women worth its weight in gold.
In other words, if on one side of the scale we put two higher educations from a woman, the ability to cook and speak smartly, and on the other - the ability to joke, understand jokes, a general cheerful mood and an understanding of a sense of humor (male), then the sense of humor will certainly outweigh at times, don't even hesitate.
Then the question. You need to spend 10 years to get 2 higher educations and a few more years to learn how to cook (which is useful in principle, but not too much) and read a lot of smart books, or a couple of months to learn to understand male humor, humor in general and learn to enjoy the good-natured banter?
And what will be the answer of most girls? Of course, you need to get higher education, read boring books in order to become smarter and do a lot of other necessary things.
Well, the more girls think so, the more such questions will be from the category: “Well, why am I smart and beautiful, and he went to a stupid and ugly one?”.
Again, I am not encouraging you to stop going to college, stop learning to cook, or stop reading a lot of books. Do what you think is necessary and important. Just understand that these skills are of secondary importance to meeting the basic needs of men.
And if they are not satisfied basic needs men, he leaves. This I hope is obvious.
Again a little comparison.. If a man is good in face, figure and mind, but does not want to provide for his family, does not want to get married and does not want children, is this man good? The vast majority of women will leave this, no matter how handsome and smart he is, since he does not satisfy the basic needs of a woman.
It's the same with men. What does a man need from a woman to be happy? It is the satisfaction of basic needs.
Basic needs are met - he is with you forever. They are not satisfied, then they leave completely, change, close psychologically, drink, etc., depending on the character.
The fourth need. Man needs rest.
Ask yourself what is vacation for you? Women answer this question differently. It might be hanging out with friends, it might be time to read a magazine. For some, it is even cleaning the house or cooking something delicious.
For men, a good rest is, as a rule, silence, lying on the couch and other ways of doing nothing. And preferably all alone.
That is, one of the basic needs of a man is rest. This rest is simple and, among other things, it is a rest from a beloved woman.
It is still amazing to me how this one of the most simple and obvious needs of a man to understand is so often and grossly violated. And it is clear that a man, without loneliness and rest, begins to cling to and find fault with you over all sorts of little things, because of which then, sometimes, serious conflicts flare up, up to the divorce of families and the division of property.
Why is that?
Yes, it's actually understandable. After all, a man's need for rest and loneliness is not a trifle at all, but a basic need. And in fact, it is not so difficult to satisfy her.
For the average man, it is enough for him to be alone for about 1 hour a day and leave him alone for 3-4 hours once a week. (at work, at home, or otherwise, it doesn't matter).
It is clear that there are different circumstances (sometimes this is not feasible) and different men, but try to take this criterion as a basis and you may be surprised at the effect.
So, rest is a basic need for a man. Usually, rest for a man is loneliness or some kind of unprofitable and meaningless activity (fishing, for example, talking with friends about nothing, sleeping during the day, etc.) If the basic need is not satisfied, then there can be any reason for a quarrel.
Fifth need. What does a man need from a woman to be happy?? — Of course sex.
An even more obvious answer, but sometimes women do not see it point-blank. There are valid circumstances (small children, illnesses), but even under these conditions, the issue can be resolved. Sometimes there is no sex for completely far-fetched reasons, like “headache, offended, or something else.”
But it is obvious that if you leave a man without sex for a long time, then after some time another woman (mistress) will simply appear, with whom he will cheat on you. And then the question may arise about how to completely move to another woman.
In these circumstances, it is possible to say that a man is bad, betrayed, or something else like that, and, most likely, a woman will be right in her own way. On the other hand, you need to understand what your behavior can lead to what results.
Satisfy the basic needs of men, learn to satisfy your basic needs, and you won’t get away from each other.
So, so that the article does not turn into an immense one, I will sum up the small results of this paragraph.
Being a hero for a woman is an extremely powerful need for a man. If it seems to him that he is not worthy of you, does not pull you, something that he has (it’s not about the material more, but about character and abilities), does not delight you, then he will most likely leave or the relationship will develop extremely hard. Because the state of "non-hero" does not make a man happy in a relationship with a woman.
As in all the above examples, it doesn't matter how things really are. The main thing is how a man feels. Admire others less, appreciate what your partner has and tell him sometimes about it. That's the whole truth.
Let's sum up the article. Satisfying basic male needs is what causes a man to appreciate a woman. This is what a man needs from a woman to become happy.
Sincerely, Rashid Kirranov.
